February 2012
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q: i’m a divorced father with weekend custody of my young children. when i was first single, i had fun dating for a bit before i just got fed up with it. i was’nt meeting anyone special, and it felt like a waste of time. since then, i’ve pretty much just been keeping to myself during the week. all my friends are coupled-up, so i’m fairly lonely except for the weekends with...
January 2012
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q: i’ve been seeing a guy pretty casually since just before the holidays. he is lovely and kind and funny, but i feel a bit of distance between us and so the whole thing has been pretty casual. i definitely like him and maybe i love him, but it’s all very confusing. we had a little heart to heart the other day, and started arranging plans for valentine’s day, which is a nice...
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q: i support gay marriage, and get angry and disappointed by things like prop 8, because i definitely think my gay friends who want to get married should be able to. but does supporting them mean i can’t get married until they can? one of my gay friends has loudly and bitterly criticized a female friend of his for getting married when he can’t - he considers it a betrayal of their...
November 2011
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q: a few weeks ago i met an air force major on match.com. he’s a bit younger than i am (by about 20 years). he’s 6’2” and i’m 5’11” and i like that because all my previous boyfriends have been shorter than me.
we met for the first time this past week and it was truly magical, as if we had met before. we spent 4 wonderful days together including his...
September 2011
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q: an old friend has recently taken to making casually racist comments on facebook. sometimes it involves the use of racial slurs, but i’ve also seen stupid “jokes” based on offensive stereotypes. when called on it, the friend either reacts by saying, “it’s a joke!” or trying to defend it by saying their life experiences justify these racist remarks.
if it...
August 2011
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q: i am relatively new in my town and am looking to make some new friends. i have also been out of a serious relationship for almost two years and would like to find a nice guy for extra-friendly stuff. i put myself out there and do meet men at concerts, parties, public transit, and other places. but when it comes time for the phone number exchange, i get incredibly shy — i’ll either...
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q: i have been on and off dating this guy for probably two years now. early on he let me know he was a committment-phobe/not into a relationship, but he’s hung around this long and things usually seem very good between us. i want more and it seems like he’ll come around to that, too, but for now he says he isn’t ready for anything more or bigger. he wants me in his life, but...
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q: i work for a very small company… and my male boss likes me waaaaay too much. i swear i have done absolutely nothing to encourage any of his weird/creepy behavior — stuff like calling me by cutesy nicknames, bringing me treats i didn’t ask for, giving me icky compliments, etc. it hasn’t gotten into any molest-y territory (yet), but really, it’s already far too inappropriate for the...
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q: i have a problem. two guys at work have expressed an interest in dating me. i like them both and want to date them but if i say yes to one, i might lose the other. what should i do? - double trouble a: here’s what you should do: NOT DATE EITHER OF THEM. if there is any way to make the whole “dating someone i work with” scenario more complicated and potentially...
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q: i was in what i thought was a serious relationship for a year-and-a-half with my best friend. he developed a crush on me and after me rejecting him for six months, we finally started dating. i fell in love fast and hard, and he seemed to feel the same way. however, he cheated on me recently and i’m confused as to why. he apologized and said he loves me no matter what, but i’m not sure if...
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q. my girlfriend says i need to put a time limit on waiting for my boyfriend to propose to me. she says i should not let my boyfriend know about the time limit. we have been together for 5 years and i think our relationship is very strong. i eventually would like to marry him and when we have talked a little about marriage, he says he does plan to marry me. i am not sure how i would approach this...
July 2011
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q: this week, my boyfriend left for japan, where he will be traveling for work for about 4 months. i won’t be able to visit him, so we won’t have much contact. this is the first serious relationship for both of us, so his leaving is extremely hard. here’s the thing: i feel as if his missing me will ruin the whole trip for him, so i was contemplating ending things — that way,...
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q. i am a friend of a man who is married who announced last week that his wife is expecting their first child. i have never met his wife. he has had at least one extramarital affair, with a 16-year-old girl, which is over now. he told me all about this affair as it happened and it made me very uncomfortable. yesterday he told me he’s solicited a woman over the internet, and is paying her...
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q: my husband and i are expecting our second child this fall. as long as we’ve been together, we’ve planned to have 2 children. when we told my mother-in-law the happy news she took me aside and said that if we have another girl we will need to try a few more times so that we can produce a boy to “carry on the family name.” my in-laws are are not as ...
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q: i have two dogs. they use our yard to do their business, and i do clean it up three times a week, but my next-door neighbor wants me to clean up after the dogs immediately. she came over to discuss this while i was outside with the dogs, but i don’t really see how it affects her at all. i work full-time and have two young children, and i just don’t have the time to do this every day. how...
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q: i don’t know what to about my boyfriend. we have been together a little more than a year and for the first nine months it seemed perfect. the last few months have been so different, though. we argue constantly, and he is always angry and can be very mean and nasty to me and other people. it gets worse and worse all the time, though he apologizes and says he doesn’t mean to get...
June 2011
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q: i recently introduced my boyfriend of a few months at a family event. as these things can be, it was a little awkward, but i was not expecting the reaction i got from my family afterward. both of my sisters stated they did not like him, my mom was noncommittal, and they all asked questions that essentially boiled down to “why are you with him?” in fact, they know why i am with him...
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q: i just got engaged! my fiance’s mother offered to throw us an engagement party, which is really nice of her. despite the fact that she’s going to be my mother-in-law, we have always gotten along. i do want an engagement party, and was planning to throw a small one myself. she wants to throw a huge party! i asked if we could do something a little smaller scale but don’t...
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q: i have a friend who is, shall we say, pretty sensitive. even though i try to keep this in mind with how i act around her, she gets offended by things i say or post on facebook, blogs, etc. (that are not aimed at her). then, without warning, she’ll send me a message telling me how offensive i’m being. she will delete or block me on facebook/twitter and not take my calls, so that...
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q: i have a snooping problem at my work. i feel like my fellow coworker is just always invading my privacy. for the longest time, he had a habit of sneaking up behind me and just always reading anything i was working on. i finally got so annoyed that i got into the habit of closing down windows whenever i can tell he is coming by. it’s not that i am doing anything wrong; i just hate the...
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q: a good friend of mine suddenly got dumped by her live-in partner of two years, just over a month ago. she was upset for about a week, and since then, she’s had this “everything is fine, thanks for asking” attitude. she has even started dating someone else! i know everyone deals with traumatic events differently, but it feels weird hanging out with her now, because the...
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q: my boyfriend is practically perfect in every way except his terrible table manners. it isn’t just elbows on the tables or the occasional slurp, but loud chewing, slurping everything in sight, burping, talking with his mouth full, and never, ever using a napkin. this would bother me at home (he does it there), but my annoyance is magnified and has the added component of embarrassment...
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q: bitches, what’s the best way to turn down a friend’s request to attend an event with them, or something along those lines, when the honest reason is plainly, “i don’t want to”? please account for responses such as, “i’ll cover the cost,” “but it’ll be fun,” and, “i know you’re not doing anything.”
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q: i have a close female friend who has been on and off again, over and over, with her boyfriend for the past few years. while they are both great people, they are not right for each other at all. i have been there through all of her complaints, tears, and rants.
they just got back together after the fifth or sixth breakup (i’ve lost count), and i’m sick of hearing her complaints about...
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q: the other day, i was on the street and saw a girl walking in front of me. she was dressed for an office job, but her skirt was so short that i could clearly see the control tops (ugh) of her shiny nude pantyhose (double ugh) when the back of her skirt flipped up with every step. i can’t imagine she would want anyone seeing this at her work - let alone everyone on the street - and she...
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q: my boyfriend and i broke up a couple of months ago. it wasn’t a terrible breakup and we’re trying to be friends, which is going fine so far. the problem is that i almost immediately started dating someone new when we broke up, and it’s getting serious now. i haven’t said anything to my ex because i figured it was none of his business and i wasn’t sure the new...
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q. how soon after you start seeing someone casually do you let them know it’s gotta stay casual (e.g., i’m moving away at the end of 2011, i’m getting married in a few weeks, my doctor just gave me six months to live)? i like the girl i just started seeing, but it’s gotta stay time-limited. a year is a long time, anyway, but i know full disclosure has to enter the...
the bitches are back!
starting soon, the bitches will be back at least weekly, hopefully more often. bear with us as we get back into the swing of things, and please submit questions!
xo, irene, steph & lisa
January 2011
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