q: a few weeks ago i met an air force major on match.com. he’s a bit younger than i am (by about 20 years). he’s 6’2” and i’m 5’11” and i like that because all my previous boyfriends have been shorter than me.
we met for the first time this past week and it was truly magical, as if we had met before. we spent 4 wonderful days together including his birthday. he’s really nice and it was a powerful time together.
however, there are a few things i need to ask about. first, his P is crooked like a coat hanger. never have seen that before - what’s up with that? secondly, this week he has suddenly changed his tune and suggests that things moved way to fast last week and that he doesn’t really have time to have a relationship at this time. so, do i go along with him and pretend that there were no true feelings last week, just a superficial exchange of kissing, cuddling and you know what else (a LOT of you know what else), or do i try to pursue what we had last weekend?
- crooked
a: first things first, a crooked wiener is still a wiener, although if it’s shaped like a coat hanger that might actually be a little weird. are you exaggerating? if so, just keep in mind that human bodies are generally strange & no two are alike. even the most fit & beautiful among us have hair growing in weird places or slightly lopsided ears or SOMETHING. take things like crooked peens in stride & appreciate the little things that make us all different! CELEBRATE! (as long as someone knows what to do with their weirdly shaped P, that is.)
second things second, sometimes you meet a wonderful person & have a really special time for a few days & that is all you have. sometimes you meet a dull person & fight with them constantly & they are your main piece for years. people are unpredictable & relationships are not perfect. it’s also impossible to know what a person is thinking or feeling & your judgement can get awfully clouded when you have stars in your eyes. the best thing to do in this situation is to take people at their word & take things as they are. even if they’re saying something you don’t want to hear, assume that they mean it. especially if their actions back it up. unless you have reason to believe otherwise (& your own feelings DON’T count as a reason to believe otherwise, sorry), this is probably a safe tactic to assume in most situations.
third things third, take this in stride. if you like this young fella, and it seems clear that you do, take your time with him. perhaps he will change his tune about the relationship when he feels safe and ready for it, OR maybe you can just get another magical weekend or two out of it. both of those things sounds like they would be worth your time.
