q. how soon after you start seeing someone casually do you let them know it’s gotta stay casual (e.g., i’m moving away at the end of 2011, i’m getting married in a few weeks, my doctor just gave me six months to live)? i like the girl i just started seeing, but it’s gotta stay time-limited. a year is a long time, anyway, but i know full disclosure has to enter the discussion at some point. so… when?
- yeahhh, the boy’s a time bomb
a. all bitches know that honesty is the best policy. whereas stretching the truth can be helpful when you are too hungover to go to work, relationships are confusing enough without people hiding the truth. I’m assuming you like this girl, since you spend time with her and clearly are worried about hurting her already. so, really, just grow up and tell her exactly what’s really going on. different people want different types of relationships. she may be happy to keep it casual, or she may want to break it off if she wants something more long term. you won’t know until you say something; if you are already thinking about it, just say it.
another important part is why you know already that it will stay casual in the future. If it’s something like moving away, that makes perfect sense. If it’s something more vague, like you don’t want to be tied down, please let the poor thing know asap so she doesn’t waste her time with someone who wants something different. seriously, we hate that.
honestly, if she likes you enough, or wants similar things, she will stay. then you get to hold on to that “well, I DID warn you” card if things get messy in the end… but please don’t throw it in her face later. that’s a little too bitchy.
